Independent Living is a great option for individuals in need of managed care, but are still able to maintain a healthy and independent lifestyle. Let the experience of your Senior Care Advisors help you better understand if this is the right option for you.

Alternatives to Aging


The concept of time means our lifespan will continue to be measured in years, days, and months, but aging is a totally separate subject.  In 1513,  Ponce de Leon showed up in Florida looking for the fountain of youth, and many before and after him also sought the elusive ability to get younger. Transparency Market Research says the anti-aging industry totals over $2 BILLION worldwide. This article is not about looking younger, it is about your ability to have a quality life and extend your longevity as a result. It can start today.

Program your vision of getting older, regardless of your number of years on earth. A Yale study found aging well translated into seven more years, primarily from attitude and lifestyle changes. That is the alternative to aging, embracing the additional time for a purpose. A traditional lifestyle in the USA has a career followed by retirement. IF retirement removes your purpose for being, reduces your social involvements, and does not include MORE exercise and nutritional focus, it can be viewed as a contagious disease.

Vitality, purpose, fulfillment, goals, movement, and wellness is attitudinal. Using the knowledge and maturity you’ve achieved to help others, gets included in the recognition of more value, not diminished physical or cognitive ability. How you look and feel and the environment you choose to be in is the key. Ageism includes a negative self-perception as well as negative stereotypes from others. Ingrained beliefs affect how our bodies react to the world around us as well. A false belief that youthfulness is better can result in self-sabotaging daily activities.

A recent study from The Gerontologist claims ageism adds $63 BILLION to healthcare expense in the country each year.  Being discriminated against due to age can be as subtle as being talked down to or being denied investigative procedures that could help avoid diseases.  A holistic view of our daily life includes spiritual, mental, physical, housing, nutrition, recreation, and transportation. The mundane activities of cleaning, laundry, cooking, yardwork, repairs, and driving back and forth to various doctor’s appointments do not help.

Thriving can best be achieved with a plan to address all of life’s challenges and joys, regardless of your number of years on the planet. An entire industry has sprung up in the past few decades to provide environments for thriving. Independent Living handles all the mundane activities giving you time to do what is really important. For those whose bodies require some assistance with activities of daily living, Assisted Living Communities create cruise-ship type atmospheres and add hands-on help as needed. Your CarePatrol advisor can show you locations appropriate for an alternative to aging.


When You Need Help

In June 2013, I found myself needing to move my dad from the Independent living facility that he had been living in for almost 2.5 years to a higher level of nursing. I needed to move him in a relatively short amount of time, because his health was declining, and I was getting ready to go on an extended trip outside of the country.

Quickly, I found out that I had no idea what I was doing, who to contact, or where to go. So, I googled, and quickly came across one of Care Patrol’s competitors. I filled in a form on the website. Next thing I knew- in less than 30 seconds, I got the first call. In the first three days, I got over 20 calls. My name had been given to everyone in the area. I was also given a list of the places in the area, and basically let loose. Great. I got a bazillion phone calls, even more emails, and a list. Fantastic. Also, not very helpful. I was pretty much in tears by that point.

So, I picked up the phone and started calling. It turns out that my dad actually needed an even higher level of care than I knew. So, none of the places whose information I had been given were a suitable match. Most of them wouldn’t allow my dad to keep his caregivers. Some wouldn’t take a 2 person transfer or a hoyer lift transfer. And very few would allow him to keep his cats.

I kept dialing until I found a place to move him, toured, and moved him in. I got lucky. I had resources, and I eventually found a place to move him, but I will say that the month of June was frantic to say the least.

On the day I was returning from my trip, my father passed away. I had some serious time to reflect on what I wanted to do with life, and where I was going, since I had graduated from Duke with my MBA in May. I decided to purchase the Care Patrol Franchise because I wanted to ensure that others didn’t have to endure the confusion and insanity that was the time where I was looking for a place for my dad.

What Does a Senior Placement Service Do?


Two years ago, I got the unwanted news that my dad needed to move to a place where he could get a higher level of care—the independent living community he had lived in for three years was no longer enough for his needs. He needed to move to an assisted living or memory care facility, and he needed to move quickly.  Because of the deterioration in his health, he had developed a need for two person transfers (for instance, being moved from bed to a wheelchair).

I wanted to make sure that the transition would include his caregivers, who had been with him around the clock, and his two cats. I was determined to make sure he would get the best possible care for his needs and wishes—not just any place would do.

Unfortunately, I didn’t know much about retirement communities in my area, and I found myself suddenly needing to tour many of them to figure out which ones would work for Dad.   I didn’t even know which retirement communities there were in my area and had absolutely no idea where to start.  I quickly came to realize that I needed to look at cost, care, violation histories, what the residents think, their activities, what kind of food is served and things like whether a community is friendly to a single male.  There are so many things that can happen when family isn’t there to directly oversee and manage care all the time. I needed someone to help me navigate the waters and decide exactly where he was going to go.  In short, I needed a company like CarePatrol.

That’s what led me to become part of CarePatrol in 2013.  I recognized the great need for assistance among those seeking to find a safe, appropriate place to live for themselves or a loved one. Trying to find the right choice for a retirement care community is absolutely daunting.  There are over 350 communities in the CarePatrol of the Triangle territory alone.  These facilities serve a wide variety of needs.  Of those 350, about five were possible matches for Dad’s care needs and other requirements.  Of those, only one had availability.  I had to go fishing and hope to find the right community—it was very much like trying to drive a car down the highway while blindfolded.

These days, the CarePatrol of the Triangle team helps families navigate a wide variety of needs to find the right community.  We know which communities have beds available, what the care and violation histories of the communities are, and we know how they treat their clients. We get to know the communities we work with as well as the families we help. That way, we can make recommendations that fit the family and meet their health, safety, and financial needs.

Once we’ve met with a family and performed an in-depth care discovery, we recommend three or four communities. Then we take the family on tours of those places.  If they want to look at more communities, we will do that. It’s funny how families frequently come back to one of the first communities we’ve shown them.  It’s not really surprising though—we are placement experts, and we really know the strengths and weaknesses of the different communities.  We understand the personalities of each community, and have a good idea for where someone would be a good fit.

Once a family has chosen a particular community, we can help negotiate a contract and facilitate the moving process. We work as a guide and advocate to help the entire move go as smoothly as possible.

Once the move is complete, our work isn’t complete. We follow up with families to see how they’re doing.  We make sure that clients get the service they need and are well taken care of.  We care about them for life.